I'm watching Sophie's Revenge for the third time this year because I recommended it to a friend last night (she liked it!). Sophie's Revenge is a Chinese-Korean movie about a comic artist who concocts a crazy scheme to get revenge on her ex-fiance and the famous actress he left her for with the help of her two polar-opposite best friends and the actress's photographer ex-boyfriend.
But even if you are with someone, you can appreciate the sentiment. Most of us have been dumped at some point in time, and I think the desire for revenge is a very human one. After all, how many of us have dressed especially nice when we know we're going to run into an ex? I think, to some degree, we all want to be the one to "win the break-up" in the end.
This past weekend, I went out with a college friend who was visiting, and as soon as we got our drinks, I noticed a guy who looked suspiciously like one of my ex-boyfriends. He was sitting with another guy who looked a lot like one of my ex-boyfriends' friends. My first reaction (after the brief, heart-stopping, oh-god-no feeling) was to turn to my friend and ask her how I looked. I then spent the rest of the evening doing my best not to look over there to be sure whether or not it was him. And I flirted a little with the bartender. I may never know if it actually was him, but I was certainly going to make sure I looked great anyways.
Though I've never gone quite so far as Sophie does (dating your ex's new significant other's ex is too much for me), I do understand wanting to show both of them up in the end. And Sophie is amazingly creative in doing this.
I do remember one break-up in particular where I went a little Sophie's Revenge (okay, maybe more than a little). It was terrible. There are some break-ups that you will just never win. Especially when the other person isn't interested in competing. On the bright side, I did come out of that phase, and I became really good friends with someone else involved in the whole process. I also have one ex who I swear only talks to me so he can see if he's winning the break-up.
Sometimes I wonder if anyone really ever wins at a break-up at all. Two people who were really close now acting like they barely know each other (much less like one another)? It seems a bit sad.
Unless, of course, someone cheated on you and then left you for the other person, but then they got bored; meanwhile, you're looking fabulous, having an awesome time just getting to know yourself, and having tons of fun being single. Then you've definitely won the break-up.
Have any stories to share? I'd love to hear from you!